Caste?? Really??

Today let me ask you one question! What is necessary for two people to marry?

First of all they both should be humans and love each other and the other thing they both should be of opposite sex :P

Do you think any damn thing is required apart from this? Why parents of India don’t understand this simple logic?

I don’t understand one thing, in India where lots of battles are fought just to make countries free, then why the hell these caste differences? Give me one convincible logic that why Inter-caste marriage is such an issue? Are we really free? Are we really independent?

Just because of our so called SAMAJ? Just because of our reputation? Just because what people think of us? People will think no matter what. They don’t spare GOD also. If something good happens they will be the first to take credit, and if something bad happens they will be the first to criticize. Do you live for those virtue less people?? Really??

Just ask yourself two simple questions!

1. Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been, if only you had the courage of your convictions, the courage to stand up for what you believe in?

2. If you bowed to your parents' wishes and you went into an arranged marriage later on, how are you going to feel ten years from now if you found yourself in a bland marriage to somebody you simply do not love?

Indian parents are too good in black mailing their children. And you know why? Because the blackmail WORKS!! Things in India are never going to change until such a time as when more and more Indians start to live the life they wanted to live, marry the person they want to marry, be in the profession they wanted to be in etc. I am NOT suggesting that parental advice should be discounted. However, parental control does not have to dictate every aspect of the lives' of adult children!! If you can choose country’s president, you should have right to choose your partner. I mean it’s like you are capable enough to decide 1.2 billion people’s future but not your own future! Funny!!

The choice is not really between the partner and the parent - the choice is actually between standing the ground on your independent decision and bending to others' expectations of you. The choice is between having a strong spine or getting it broken forever. Remember that our choices are what make us who we are

Dissociate yourself from the situation and think. Who constitutes a marriage? It’s simple - just the spouses. Families and even kids come in the outer circle, but the marriage is only about the two of you. Your or his parents won't co-sleep on your marital bed. You are going to begin a new life with your spouse, not parents and it is he you will have kids and grandkids with. You are a person in your own right and not an extension of your parents.

Even in the Indian context, you live only 20 plus years with parents - then on, you live with your spouse for 50 plus years. Which one do you want to count - 20 years of past or 50 years of future?

When you come to the end of your life you do not regret the things you did but the things you never did. Any old person who has truly lived will tell you this.

Coming to specifics, caste clashes and some very real problems - parents disowning you, neighbors bad mouthing your family and you etc.

Is this still worse than living the rest of your life in regret?

My solution is, if you really are serious about getting married to your boyfriend/girlfriend now, then go ahead and marry him. Inform your parents and invite your friends. Apply for a personal loan or use your savings. Get married. Don't care about who turns up or who doesn't. I know it’s easier said than done. Our ethics won't allow us to do this. But c’mon after all its YOUR LIFE!!

I apologize if I hurt anyone’s religious sentiments or some parents! My intentions are to convey the message that just look at the things practically and ask yourself what you have done for YOU actually! You are here for yourself not for others.

Thank God at least animals and birds don’t follow caste systems. In India I guess battles were fought to make creatures free not humans! I don’t think it’s just caste, its thinking, an irreparable thinking!!

I wish anyone of you don’t end up writing some piece of article like this! If you truly love someone go and show some courage! Believe me its worth more than that.

Keep Reading!! :)

Love you all!! :)

Some People have Lives, Some have Music!!

Hello All,

Lets talk about Music today!

MUSIC- This five letter word has been derived from Greek  “Mousike” which means the art of music.  As we have different personalities, different thinking; we have different meaning of the same word which vary according to culture and social context. 

It can be expressed in words yet it says a lot by being silent. As there is a great thought by famous personality Bob Marley, “when it hits you, you feel no pain”. 

A word that is too deep to understand yet so powerful tool to express feelings.

Academy is a place where a subject is studied. 

The study of music is called Musicology. It’s defined into three sub-disciplines: Historic musicology, comparative musicology and systematic musicology. 

Some of the graduate degrees like The Master of Arts, The Master of Music, and The Doctor of Philosophy (in Musicology and Music theory). 

One of the most recent studies includes the Doctor of Musical Arts. These degrees are awarded to students on the basis of the mastery in instrument they play, composition or voice. 

The Master of Music degree is awarded on writing thesis they write. Also, there are some undergraduate degrees like Bachelor of Music, Bachelor in Music Education and Bachelor of Arts with major in Music which may take three to five years to complete. Some people also learn instruments and singing technique as a part of their program. 

But hello, its not as easy as just to cram up things and give an exam and Viola!! I am done. No, music is a subject which is to be learnt whole-heartedly and requires full dedication and sincere efforts. 

This is why these academies are made which gives an aura to the student to know what exactly this subject is all about. Amateur musicians perform and compose music for their own pleasure and when they hold a grip of that, they start doing it as a source of income. 

Its awesome when our passion becomes our source of income, we just love our work then. These academies make this happen. Professional musicians are employed by these academies, institutions, organizations, music schools or be it broadcasting or film production. 

Sometimes professional musicians work as freelancers as well. College students would engage into music events and concerts and entertain people.One thing you might not know that music has a connection with the every possible subject you know. 

Be it mathematics, psychology, engineering and what not. Sometimes mathematics is used to understand music by the music theorist. 

One has to dive into the ocean of music to understand how deep and serene it is.

Some people have lives, some have music!! 

Have a musical day ahead!

Love you all!!

Keep Reading! :)

Miracles Do Happen!!!

Dear All,

Have you ever wondered HOW the person's psychology effects his life? OR Let me reframe my question; By HOW MUCH it can effect his life?? A Lot...

There are many ways of approaching a certain problem or reacting to a certain situation, where you are suppose to react using your inner instinct . 

Either these things can take place at your company where you work, your own company where you decide things, your public life or personal life.

Lets say our computer stores cookies so do our brain. 

We always judge a particular situation using the cookies that accumulate in our brain due to various events that happened so far in our life. 

Now sometimes these cookies may be in the form of some pre-conceived notions or some hypothetical images of certain situations where you reacted in some manner, some of these cookies may also contain some incident where you chose your spiritual instinct over your theoretical knowledge.

So a person’s overall personality, life style, decision ability, approach towards life would develop in and around the things he believe, things that happened with him in past and present. These experiences effects our life a lot. 

These experiences can change a person from SAGE to DEVIL or vice-a-versa. 

Its all about a person's attitude how he deals with the situations.

 Like if we put a half full glass of water in front of two persons one of them would see it as half empty. 

This shows how you see things, either you can take it as an opportunity or as a limitation. This also reflects in his values, his ideas, his beliefs that he uses to take certain decisions either be it for himself or for the company he works. 

Starting at an early age, the choices one makes based on the past experiences, spiritual beliefs and values directly relate to the creation of certain lifestyle habits, such as diet, alcohol use, and sexual practices.  

Moreover, the benefit of a religious community made up of a variety of individuals from many generations also provides a strong sense of support and connection. 

The overall effect of such practices on one’s health and well-being is found to be positive throughout one’s lifetime.

Taking this thing into management or business, sometimes a cool headed person or a spiritual minded person may happen to have a different approach to some problems than the persons who doesn’t believe in values, moral beliefs, and spirituality. Such persons always develops a negative image more than a positive one.

His decisions are always infected with the negativity that came into him due to the earlier values or beliefs he had. 

Where else the decisions of the person having good moral base, values, spiritual believes will always be influenced more because of the positive energy that came into him because of his spiritual thinking, beliefs and values.

What is being tried to accomplish here is the way in which we integrate different aspects of our human experience – our emotions with our intellect or our minds with our bodies – while also connecting us with others who share similar beliefs. 

We seek  out  these  experiences,  which  are  special  and  set  us  distinctly  apart  from  our mundane and ordinary daily lives. 

These experiences lift us up out of our narrow selves and give us a glimpse – if only temporary – of another way to view things as a part, however small, of a larger picture. Spiritual and religious practices that help us integrate the body, mind, and spirit, also provide psychological and physical benefits.

A person will always be motivated to work even if he is failing because of the spiritual belief he is having in himself, because of the positive impact of that spiritual belief. Sometimes a company doesn’t work according to the prior way decided. 

That doesn’t mean that the person should stop it from there. 

This is where a spiritual, and positive minded person would survive and not the one having false values and beliefs. 

A person if is spiritual is aware of the tasks, products, things he is producing and has a full confidence in it. 

A positive thinker will always see a failure as an oppportunity to create something new. Otherwise how would a loss making company can be at top position!! 

Is it a miracle or something? YES it is  the miracle of positive thinking...

A Special thanks to MIHIR SHAH for this article.... 

Love u All..:) 

Keep Smiling :)

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Daughters Are Precious!!

Dear All,
Today I want to share something important with you.
Actually I m a big fan of  perfectionist Aamir Khan and watch everything in which he is involved.
His recent T.V. show "Satyamev Jayte" was advertised in such a simple way but the way he presented that show was really influencing. [I must say his shows or films doesn't really need an advertisement ;) ]
I was waiting for this Sunday to watch his programme but somehow I couldn't watch it, just now I watched its repeat telecast.
As soon as I watched his programme I was so influenced that I thought to write an article for this.


[No, no this isn't important actually..:) ] 


Generally my blog posts are related to relations, love, friendship,motivating people etc but today I want to divert my posts to a burning issue which relates to Girl Child Infanticide.


First of all I want to ask a question to all of you "What is necessary to make a family or say a WORLD??
Human beings!! Right??


And Human beings include Male and Female!!


Then why the hell people are killing Girl child and those same people are welcoming male child?
Do you think this is due to lack of education or literacy??
I m afraid You are wrong!! 
Most of those "people" include Doctors, Teachers, IAS', Professors etc
If educated people of India are responsible for such issues then what to say to illiterate people?


There are laws which are against the misuse of parental diagnostic techniques which are only meant for detecting the abnormalities in unborn infant but its really painful to say the "DOCTORS" are the only persons who violate this law.


Not a single case has been filed so far under the law, which forbids such an unethical practice.


Today, the problem is quite widespread in the northern states of Bihar, Uttar Pradesh and Rajastan.
In Tamilnadu, killing a girl child is practiced traditionally.


In Rajasthan also, a girl child is looked upon as a curse because her father has to lie low before the father of boy at the time of match finding.(How Silly)


There are many reasons to kill a girl child like she is considered to be a security risk- a source of trouble for the family’s honor and reputation, economic reasons, dowry reasons etc


In some communities there is a dirty superstition that if a daughter is killed, the next child will be a son.


The greatest tragedy is that women themselves permit the death of their daughters as mercy killing.


Unwanted baby girls are often left on the road or in the maternity homes at night, this is due to the unhealthy sex before marriage or due to the death of husband, who is the only source to take of her and her baby.


This unhealthy practice has caused great imbalance in the ratio of boys and girls in several states and communities.


It is really sad for such a country suffering from this issue in which the name itself includes MAATA(mother)
How can the people of such country be so cruel?


I would request to each and every reader of my blog and to each and every person of India that if you are involved in such a practice please STOP IT!! 
Those who are reading I would like them to atleast create awareness among people and influence them to stop such practices.
If 10% of who are reading this get influenced by my article, my work is done.
But this is not sufficient! 
Youth of India has to take this issue seriously and put some hard efforts!!
Hope you all will!!
Last but not the Least, I would like to appreciate Aamir Khan's initiative.
Keep up the good work Aamir :) India is with You.




SAVE THE GIRL CHILD


HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY 


LOVE YOU ALL 


KEEP READING


KEEP SMILING :)

L-O-V-E!!

Dear All,


Today I m going to discuss a most complicated yet the most sought after question.
Frankly speaking, before writing this article I asked some people about their views regarding this.
WHAT IS LOVE??


Eh, Actually everyone in this world come up with his/her own definition of love.
Some say its an attachment.
Some say its a sexual attraction.
Some say its a sexual and romantic relationship between two persons who are not married to each other.
Some say its a great liking.
But over and above this, I would say that Love is not merely an attraction, affection, attachment, sexual relation or whatever shit people say about it.
According to me Love has a very pious and spiritual meaning. 
It is a feeling which cannot expressed in words or defined. 
Today people had just spoiled the meaning of this word by creating these crab dictionary definitions of Love. This is not Love . 
These are merely infatuations and addictions. 
Love is so deep to explain and so intense to understand!!
Is this the only thing Love is extended to??
Why people can't think beyond outer beauty, attraction, good looks, sexual relation??
Why when one hears the word LOVE, then only these thoughts pop up in our sub conscious mind??
No doubt these all seems totally fine according to the so-called COOL 21st CENTURY guys and gals.
But Don't you people think that we are loosing the meaning of this pious word day by day??


Let me tell some criteria to which today's generation feel is necessary to "FALL IN LOVE"

• Wow!! Such A fataka, Yeh mil jae to life set ho jae!!
• What A sweet voice!!
• Beautiful hot chick
• Just because so many guys go crazy for her
• She/He rich and famous, perfect for me!!
• He is so dashing and charming personality!!

Do we Guys really need a reason to be love with someone?? 
Do u think these criteria holds importance in long term relationship?? 
Then Its actually "FALLING" in love.


Some sentences really put me in shock that a boy studying in 6th std has a girlfriend!! Man, Do these guys really know what they are upto?
Their parents get them cellphones in such a small age.
CELLPHONES-- The real culprit behind every possible wrong definition of Love;)
It is mu humble request to all parents (if reading) not to give cellphones to your beloved children (until and unless needed). As they are responsible for the harmful and unethical atmosphere. They can also prove dangerous for our coming generation.
These were some Off track suggestions to our so called COOL PARENTS.


Lets get back on track what actually love is!!
Its Wrong to say "I am in Love", rather than we should say "Love is in me"

• "Beta, Come home early today I will be making your favorite dish, Don't eat outside..:)"
• When there are four pieces of cake and members are five, only MOM would say "I don't like cakes..:)"
• When someone say bad about our friend, we starts fighting with him to defend our friend even though we know that he is wrong..:)
• When we fall ill, its mom who stay awake whole night just to make sure her child gets a perfect sleep..:)

These are some examples showing what the TRUE LOVE is.

Here no reason is involved. Just a feeling, a care, no complaints, no demands..

We normally feel so excited when our boyfriend/ girlfriend gifts us something special but we hardly care what our parents gifted us.

They gifted us such a wonderful life.

They gave up their desires just to fulfill our desires.

Just feel these small small things in your daily routine activities you will get to know what actually the real LOVE is.

Because of these fake attachments with so called bf/gf we normally don't give a damn to these beautiful feelings.

The most desired gift of Love is NOT diamonds or roses or chocolates.

It is FOCUSED ATTENTION

Parents, Friends are those wonderful people who teach you what LOVE is!!

Don't miss a single chance to make them feel special!!

LOVE THEM HEARTILY..:):)

LOVE YOU ALL..:):)

KEEP READING..:):)

KEEP SMILING...:):)

"Understanding" Is Life Of A Relation!!

Dear All,

Much of the anxiety I experience comes through my relationships.

Isn't it reasonable to expect some understanding from other people?

When you live in this world, there are various complex interactions happening.

As your field-of-play increases, complexity of interaction also increases.

If you are just sitting in a small room, working on your computer with only one other person, you need only a little understanding; but if you are managing a thousand people, you need good understanding of everybody.
You wont be able to manage if you want all these people to understand you.

You need to understand the limitations and capabilities of these thousand people and do what you can; only then will you have the power to move the situation the way you want it to go.

If you are waiting for these thousand people to understand you and act, it is a pipe dream; it won't happen.

The closer the relationship, the more effort you need to make to understand them.

Somebody becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better.

If they understand you, they enjoy the closeness of the relationship.

If you understand them better, then you enjoy the closeness.

If you are expecting the other to comply with you all the time while you don't understand limitations, possibilities, needs and capabilities of that person, then conflict happens; it is a given.

Unfortunately, the closest relationships have more conflict going on than between enemies.

In your relationships, you have fought many more battles than this and are still fighting, isn't it so?

This is because your line of understanding and theirs is different.

If you cross this Line of Control, they get mad.

If they cross it, you get mad.

If you move your understanding beyond theirs, their understanding also becomes a part of yours.

You'll be able to embrace their limitations and capabilities.

In everyone, there are positive and negative aspects.

If you embrace all this in your understanding, you can make the relationship the way you want it.

If you leave it to their understanding, it will become accidental.

If they are magnanimous, things will happen well for you; if not, the relationship will break up.

Do you want to be the one who decides what happens to your life?

Whether they are intimate relationships, professional, political, global or whatever, don't you want to be the person who decides what happens in your life?

If you do, include everything and everybody into your understanding.

Enhance your understanding to a point that you can look beyond people's madness also.

There are wonderful people around you, but once in a while they like to go crazy for a few minutes.

If you don't understand that, you will lose them.

If you do, then you know how to handle them.

Life is not always linear; you have to do many things to keep it going.

If you give up your understanding, your capability will be lost.

Whether it is a question of personal relationships or professional management, you need understanding; otherwise, you will not have fruitful relationships.

The way you are right now, the very quality of your life is decided by the type of relationships you hold.

Make the effort to understand people around you.

Have an Understanding Day Ahead!!! 

Keep Smiling!!:):):)
Keep Reading!!!:):)

Love U All!!!:):)

NAINA NATHANI

Gossip!! Gossip!! Gossip!!

"The practice involves talk about people who are not present and this talk is relaxed, informal and entertaining. Typically, the topic of conversation also concerns information that we can make moral judgments about"


Phew!! What the CRAP is this??


Dear All,
In simple language this is called GOSSIP!!
This is the major reason why half of the population of India is unproductive.
Let me explain you!!


--Hey, Do you know Mrs. Sharma's daughter is 3 months pregnant!!!
--My boyfriend calls me 20 times a day. What about you??
--Have you saw Mrs. Khanna's new diamond necklace? So expensive naa??


This is the type of conversation we all interested in.
Now, What the hell Mrs. Sharma's daughter pregnancy , Boyfriend's 20 times call , Mrs. Khanna's expensive diamond necklace have to do with your life??
Its actually none of your business.


Friends!! 
Its really good to be the topic of someone's conversation but its really not worth to get into such.
If you are in a situation that you are forced to take part -- Just be the obedient listener and at the end flush it off right there!!


I swear there are lot many important things worth knowing apart from someone's expensive necklace and the measurement of boyfriends love in number of calls!!


No doubt, Gossip offers a foothold for the new comers in group and a safety net for the group members who feel in danger of falling out.
But one should know "WHEN TO TALK AND WHEN TO KEEP QUIET"!!!
At the end of the day I just want to say you guys that always indulge in productive things and positive conversations, or else the opposite can make your life MISERABLE!!


Its better to GO AND SIP instead of G-O-S-S-I-P!!!!


That's it for today!!
HAVE A PRODUCTIVE DAY AHEAD!!!
LOVE YOU ALL!!!:):):)


{AMAZING FACT- Read that CRAP now, you will surely like that!!!:):)}